Carnal Desire
The Third Side of the Story
(I hate to have to put a disclaimer on this. I for one have faith in you my dear readers but in the interest of self preservation I must. This is an article about sex. There is adult content in here that relates only to consensual acts between adults. By reading this you agree that you are at least 18 years of age and that you realize that this in no way endorses sexual relations with children, animals or unwilling parties. Use your fucking heads people.)
Recently in our society there has been a great deal of conversation about sex. There are supposed sex experts every where you turn, in book stores, on television, on the radio. From the strictly medical to the down right raunchy there is an avenue for almost every one out there to have their sex questions answered. I find this to be a very big step for a society that is notorious for having a great deal of sexual guilt, and for keeping their sexual feelings bottled up. However, not one of these people truly gets down to the why’s of our carnal natures. Sure there are those who will cite your childhood experiences as reasoning for some of your more deviant sexual behaviors and while our upbringing does play a large part in whom we are as adults there is still a deeper level that is ignored. I believe that this root idea is ignored because it is not easily proven. I believe that it is much too close to the creation vs. scientific argument about how we got here in the first place. What we are designed to do by nature or god, take your pick, is undeniable. I am today going to focus on this, the third argument of Carnal Desire.
Carnality or the nature of the flesh is a topic that has for very long been taboo. Many still blush and stammer when the topic of sex is brought up. Many cannot talk about their sexual desires in public and far worse cannot even discuss sex with the person they are fucking. This guilty complex our society harbors goes back of course into our Christian history. I am sure we all know about the Puritans and early settlers to this country and the detrimental mindset they carried with them in to this new land. I am not going to give a history lesson here but I would like to touch on a few key points.
For many hundreds of years any woman who was overtly sexual, even in the privacy of her bedroom was considered a harlot and there fore undesirable; Undesirable, in actuality, to the point of public ridicule, ostracism and sometimes even death. Men who were overtly sexual however were given a bit of leeway; it was considered lees of a crime, if publicly gaucherie. Men were still conditioned to be chaste and to desire only the chastest of women. Even then however for many men this idea of sexual chastity was not merely a social decision, there was very little morality in it. This was a way for the men to remain in absolute charge of the women. Women were kept illiterate and childlike so that the men, who were mostly pompous and ignorant themselves, could feel powerful in their homes. Taking home a virginal bride and showing her what carnal pleasure was all about usually amounted to slamming your cock into her pumping it around a time or two and putting said cock away. A wonderful experience for the women I am sure. None of this carnal morality stopped in any way the puritan people from visiting their sexual pleasure elsewhere. Prostitution abounded and there was always the widow woman next door.
Unfortunately we have carried a great many of these puritan ideals with us into the 21st century. As sad as it may sound it is a truth that must be faced. Many still harbor the idea that masturbation is not only harmful to you sexually but is also mentally and physically harmful as well. It is believed that any sexual act outside of the most basic of positions is dirty and makes one a whore. Let’s not even consider acts like oral or anal sex, the use or toys, bondage, spanking, foot worship, threesomes, group sex, gang bangs, double penetration, the list goes on and on. Even though more and more of us are finding these things pleasurable and are actually indulging in them too many carry that puritan sense of guilt away from the experience. Let me show you how this affects the act itself and future sexual acts.
Take masturbation. Many of us began masturbating at puberty. It is well known that most children will begin exploring their genitals at around the age of six. For this discussion we will stick to when there is actually a sexual response to that exploration, the first time you realized that this actually felt good. Though the act of masturbation felt really good somewhere in our heads we know at that age that it is a sexual act and so must be hidden. We found time and place to perform the act with the fear of being caught lurking somewhere in the back of our psyche. We may have been caught at some point and told that this was a disgusting act or have heard that said somewhere. Now though on one level you feel that this is a terrible thing to do, and though you try to quit your body compels you to masturbate. You do it now with the added burden of guilt and the increased fear of being caught. This compulsion, fear, guild cycle builds over the years and masturbation becomes something that is not discussed or shared but something to be hidden. We carry that over into our relationships and adult sex lives and then are faced with hiding a part of ourselves from our most intimate partner. Multiply masturbation by what ever other sexual drives one may have and you begin to develop a serious mental problem.
Let’s get right to it. We are sexual beings. We are carnal beings. I don’t usually use definitions in my work but for the sake of clarity I will here define the word carnal.
car·nal (kär n l)adj.
Relating to the physical and especially sexual appetites: carnal desire.
Worldly or earthly; temporal: the carnal world.
Of or relating to the body or flesh; bodily: carnal remains.
Through these three definitions of the word we find one common strain. Carnal relates to the flesh, the body, the material. This means that though there is a sexual association here carnality is not purely sexual in nature there are other things in the world that provide us with carnal satisfaction. A good meal, a great bottle of wine, the scent of the air just before a rain, the feeling of the wind or the sea on your skin; all of these things are carnal in nature and can be just as detrimental to our psyche as sexual compulsion. The same patterns can apply to these things and can often be associated with our sexual appetites. The same cycle of compulsion fear and guilt can be associated with so many of the things we do in relation to our own bodies. Why is that? What the fuck is the problem?
I believe that we have lost touch with something very vital over the centuries. We are as we are for a reason. All of these things that give us pleasure were deemed in appropriate by those who said that the flesh must remain separate from the spirit in order for the spirit to advance into some mystical after life. Yet if divine or natural neither side can argue that we are complex creatures that work just as we are supposed to. This in mind you have to logically follow that these fleshly desires must be part of the program and therefore cannot be bad things. If sex was a terrible chore and had no pay off how many of you would continue to do it for any reason other than procreation? Many of us would not be here. The world would be a very empty place today. But as we all know it is not. It is dangerously over crowded in all actuality. Even the most impoverished people, against all logic, if nothing else, will fuck. Why? Because it fucking feels good, it gives us a hormonal high, a physical rush and for some time gives us reason to just relax.
You can ruin it yourself and make it a miserable undertaking by allowing the cycle of compulsion, fear and guilt to continue. Or you can realize that things are just as they should be and you can kick it up a notch, suck that dick, eat that pussy, buff that clit, choke that chicken, get that ass, pull that hair, tie that bitch up, beat his ass, swallow that cum, bring that third person in, or fourth, or fifth, and you can stop feeling so fucking guilty about it. Some times life is difficult enough, let’s not make sex a big fucking problem too. It is the last thing that the government has absolutely no control over.
The Third Side of the Story
(I hate to have to put a disclaimer on this. I for one have faith in you my dear readers but in the interest of self preservation I must. This is an article about sex. There is adult content in here that relates only to consensual acts between adults. By reading this you agree that you are at least 18 years of age and that you realize that this in no way endorses sexual relations with children, animals or unwilling parties. Use your fucking heads people.)
Recently in our society there has been a great deal of conversation about sex. There are supposed sex experts every where you turn, in book stores, on television, on the radio. From the strictly medical to the down right raunchy there is an avenue for almost every one out there to have their sex questions answered. I find this to be a very big step for a society that is notorious for having a great deal of sexual guilt, and for keeping their sexual feelings bottled up. However, not one of these people truly gets down to the why’s of our carnal natures. Sure there are those who will cite your childhood experiences as reasoning for some of your more deviant sexual behaviors and while our upbringing does play a large part in whom we are as adults there is still a deeper level that is ignored. I believe that this root idea is ignored because it is not easily proven. I believe that it is much too close to the creation vs. scientific argument about how we got here in the first place. What we are designed to do by nature or god, take your pick, is undeniable. I am today going to focus on this, the third argument of Carnal Desire.
Carnality or the nature of the flesh is a topic that has for very long been taboo. Many still blush and stammer when the topic of sex is brought up. Many cannot talk about their sexual desires in public and far worse cannot even discuss sex with the person they are fucking. This guilty complex our society harbors goes back of course into our Christian history. I am sure we all know about the Puritans and early settlers to this country and the detrimental mindset they carried with them in to this new land. I am not going to give a history lesson here but I would like to touch on a few key points.
For many hundreds of years any woman who was overtly sexual, even in the privacy of her bedroom was considered a harlot and there fore undesirable; Undesirable, in actuality, to the point of public ridicule, ostracism and sometimes even death. Men who were overtly sexual however were given a bit of leeway; it was considered lees of a crime, if publicly gaucherie. Men were still conditioned to be chaste and to desire only the chastest of women. Even then however for many men this idea of sexual chastity was not merely a social decision, there was very little morality in it. This was a way for the men to remain in absolute charge of the women. Women were kept illiterate and childlike so that the men, who were mostly pompous and ignorant themselves, could feel powerful in their homes. Taking home a virginal bride and showing her what carnal pleasure was all about usually amounted to slamming your cock into her pumping it around a time or two and putting said cock away. A wonderful experience for the women I am sure. None of this carnal morality stopped in any way the puritan people from visiting their sexual pleasure elsewhere. Prostitution abounded and there was always the widow woman next door.
Unfortunately we have carried a great many of these puritan ideals with us into the 21st century. As sad as it may sound it is a truth that must be faced. Many still harbor the idea that masturbation is not only harmful to you sexually but is also mentally and physically harmful as well. It is believed that any sexual act outside of the most basic of positions is dirty and makes one a whore. Let’s not even consider acts like oral or anal sex, the use or toys, bondage, spanking, foot worship, threesomes, group sex, gang bangs, double penetration, the list goes on and on. Even though more and more of us are finding these things pleasurable and are actually indulging in them too many carry that puritan sense of guilt away from the experience. Let me show you how this affects the act itself and future sexual acts.
Take masturbation. Many of us began masturbating at puberty. It is well known that most children will begin exploring their genitals at around the age of six. For this discussion we will stick to when there is actually a sexual response to that exploration, the first time you realized that this actually felt good. Though the act of masturbation felt really good somewhere in our heads we know at that age that it is a sexual act and so must be hidden. We found time and place to perform the act with the fear of being caught lurking somewhere in the back of our psyche. We may have been caught at some point and told that this was a disgusting act or have heard that said somewhere. Now though on one level you feel that this is a terrible thing to do, and though you try to quit your body compels you to masturbate. You do it now with the added burden of guilt and the increased fear of being caught. This compulsion, fear, guild cycle builds over the years and masturbation becomes something that is not discussed or shared but something to be hidden. We carry that over into our relationships and adult sex lives and then are faced with hiding a part of ourselves from our most intimate partner. Multiply masturbation by what ever other sexual drives one may have and you begin to develop a serious mental problem.
Let’s get right to it. We are sexual beings. We are carnal beings. I don’t usually use definitions in my work but for the sake of clarity I will here define the word carnal.
car·nal (kär n l)adj.
Relating to the physical and especially sexual appetites: carnal desire.
Worldly or earthly; temporal: the carnal world.
Of or relating to the body or flesh; bodily: carnal remains.
Through these three definitions of the word we find one common strain. Carnal relates to the flesh, the body, the material. This means that though there is a sexual association here carnality is not purely sexual in nature there are other things in the world that provide us with carnal satisfaction. A good meal, a great bottle of wine, the scent of the air just before a rain, the feeling of the wind or the sea on your skin; all of these things are carnal in nature and can be just as detrimental to our psyche as sexual compulsion. The same patterns can apply to these things and can often be associated with our sexual appetites. The same cycle of compulsion fear and guilt can be associated with so many of the things we do in relation to our own bodies. Why is that? What the fuck is the problem?
I believe that we have lost touch with something very vital over the centuries. We are as we are for a reason. All of these things that give us pleasure were deemed in appropriate by those who said that the flesh must remain separate from the spirit in order for the spirit to advance into some mystical after life. Yet if divine or natural neither side can argue that we are complex creatures that work just as we are supposed to. This in mind you have to logically follow that these fleshly desires must be part of the program and therefore cannot be bad things. If sex was a terrible chore and had no pay off how many of you would continue to do it for any reason other than procreation? Many of us would not be here. The world would be a very empty place today. But as we all know it is not. It is dangerously over crowded in all actuality. Even the most impoverished people, against all logic, if nothing else, will fuck. Why? Because it fucking feels good, it gives us a hormonal high, a physical rush and for some time gives us reason to just relax.
You can ruin it yourself and make it a miserable undertaking by allowing the cycle of compulsion, fear and guilt to continue. Or you can realize that things are just as they should be and you can kick it up a notch, suck that dick, eat that pussy, buff that clit, choke that chicken, get that ass, pull that hair, tie that bitch up, beat his ass, swallow that cum, bring that third person in, or fourth, or fifth, and you can stop feeling so fucking guilty about it. Some times life is difficult enough, let’s not make sex a big fucking problem too. It is the last thing that the government has absolutely no control over.
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