The Compleat Libertine

Clearing up the Libertine Confusion

I am a Libertine. Not because I’ve read much of the famous Libertines, not because I am a fan of the likes of John Wilmot or the Marqui de Sade, or the 2nd Earl of Rochester. Not because I love the movie “The Libertine” starring Johnny Depp. I am a Libertine because that’s what I am. I choose to live a life free of the social and moral constraints that cause us to fear and doubt and question the one thing we should never hold in doubt … ourselves.

Now I know that many of you are shaking your heads at the thought of having no moral constraints. Well that’s why I am here to help clear the fog from your heads. Being a Libertine is not about having a LACK of constraints, it’s about NOT subscribing to the social and religious moral constraints that make no sense. But, before I get into why I am a Libertine let’s look at just what a Libertine is.

Libertine as defined by dictionary dot com::

noun
1. a person who is morally or sexually unrestrained, especially a dissolute man; a profligate; rake.

2. a freethinker in religious matters.

3. a person freed from slavery in ancient Rome.

adjective
4. free of moral, especially sexual, restraint; dissolute;licentious.

5. freethinking in religious matters.

6. Archaic . unrestrained; uncontrolled.

Synonyms
1.  roué, debauchee, lecher, sensualist, amoral, sensual, lascivious, lewd.

This translates to me as FREE.

Free to live my life as I see fit. As an example: For you, dear reader, the idea of having more than one sexual partner or love interest may be immoral or indeed amoral. For me it’s a natural course of human existence. We are social creatures and, especially in this age of super connectivity, our lives are largely defined by the social connections we make. The people we keep in our lives speak as much to who we are as the people we dismiss from our lives do. For me those people are important and I am not one to hinder the growth of the relationships in my life based on some ideal of morality dictated to me by the church or the state. Instead my morality says, “Make, and strive to keep, friends. And if you get the chance to fuck one, do it”. “Where is the morality in that, “you may be asking yourself? I prefer to earn and retain friendships based on the people involved and not based on their personal lives. Just as I am free to live as I please so too are you. I will never judge or hinder you in your existence because no one but you can live it. Where is my right to judge you or ask you to change so that I can feel justified, or justify to the nay sayers in my life, knowing you? That wouldn’t be fair to me or to you.

So, what are Libertines really like? Let’s break it down shall we?

Libertine Morality

Dare I continue along this slippery, rocky, narrow, steep grade? Yes, why not? Let’s begin by definition.

mo·ral·i·ty
   [muh-ral-i-tee, maw-]
noun, plural -ties for 4–6.

1. conformity to the rules of right conduct; moral  or virtuous conduct.

2. moral  quality or character.

3. virtue in sexual matters; chastity.

4. a doctrine or system of morals.

5. moral  instruction; a moral  lesson, precept, discourse, or utterance.

The definition itself is a moral stricture. Words like virtuous and chastity are used to describe something that comes down to holding a personal stance. Maybe your stance is virtuous, maybe it isn’t. Maybe you are chaste and maybe you are not but sliding into debauchery does not make you an immoral person. The so called “rules of right conduct” are dictated by those who hold to certain values and so those values dictate morality. I say pah, pshaw, and humbug. Morality is a personal thing that begins with one idea:

And ye harm none do as thou wilt; let that be the whole of the law.

Morality is a personal stance. Personally I would never place any moral stricture on another person. That alone, to me, is a moral stance. Some people wield the rod against their children, committing violence against a being that has no hope of recourse or retribution. To me that is reprehensible and worthy of a like punishment and so completely immoral. Some feel that it’s their god given, and state given, right to harass, harangue, and abuse people for the choices they’ve made in their lives. Some feel that subjecting their families to years of missionary work and closing them off from society at large is a perfectly moral thing to do. I call it social abuse. None of us will ever agree completely on what is right and what is wrong. Right in my world boils down to leaving people to live as they please accepting them, or not, for who they are and leaving the rest to the tests of time. I expect the same in return. If you are going to be a part of my life then the fact that I can be a rapscallion and a lothario are just part of the package.

You live yours, Let me live mine.

Libertine Sexuality

Sex. We all do it we all love it. Sex is a natural part of human existence yet somehow it’s become a complicated morass of emotion, morality and plain foolishness. Some seem to think that sex and sexuality should exist in one dimension. For these people sex is one man, one woman, missionary in a bed in the dark for the purpose of procreation only. Now, tell yourselves the truth, while this happens now and then, how many of you do this every time you have sex? Only this and nothing else? The crickets are chiming in. I can hear them but not a single hand is going up. Why?

Because sex is an experience. It’s designed to be enjoyable and full of feeling and pleasure and to bring people closer together. What better way to get into someone's soul than getting into their pants? When your bodies are intertwined, skin on skin, flesh slapping in a staccato rhythm, your breath in each others ears, and faces, sweat mingling and pooling beneath you as you work yourselves into a frothy climax … whew, that’s getting me hot. The sight, the sounds, the smells of sex are intoxicating, invigorating and familiar to us all. While designed to be pleasurable so that we propagate the human race, they are decidedly NOT there for that reason alone.

We should engage one another in the act of mutual pleasure and we should do it as often as possible. We should do it in many different ways, in many different positions and with many different people. We should engage in fantasies and fulfill them for one another. We should spank and bite and scratch and go hard and deep. Sex is an experience not to be missed or taken lightly. Like all things we are discussing here however there should be no harm done to unwilling parties. This isn’t about throwing all morality, personal responsibility, and caution to the wind. This is about experiencing your life, in the now, as you please and avoiding all delusion and self deception.

Libertine Lifestyle

Some of you might be thinking, “who is he to say what a Libertine Lifestyle” is? Good question. I am a self professed life long Libertine to begin. I’ve lived in the now and for the pleasures of life since I first reached down and realized touching my dick was fun. Fighting was fun. Fucking was fun. Drinking, smoking, dancing, driving, chasing women, were, and are, all fun. These things and more are what life is all about and the Libertine Lifestyle is about indulging yourself and others.

Some may say that life is all about the pursuit of a higher spiritual state or the relentless drive for material wealth or the passion for higher ideals and they would be right. Life is also about the things you do in between the spiritual, the material and the idealistic. It takes all of these things to live a truly fulfilled life and one piece of life shouldn’t be neglected for another. No one way of living should supersede another. To hinder and restrict yourself in this way is to lose in life, to miss much of what life has to offer.

There is a saying that goes something like, “slide into your grave sweaty, panting and apologizing for being late”. The thought is appealing to me. Not that I necessarily live my life hard and fast, well not THAT hard and fast, but I do tend to take the bull by the horns and drag that fucker into the dust, cut his throat chop him up, throw him on the grill and invite people over for a Barbeque, B.Y.O.B. of course.

Libertine Thought

The thought? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. You’ve heard that before right? We live as free people, or we like to delude ourselves that freedom is a real thing. Either way freedom is ours to believe or disbelieve as we see fit. You may be a Liberal. You may be a Democrat or a Conservative. You might be a Christian or a Commie Bastard ( I love saying that). Gay, Straight, Unsure it’s all your right to be or not to be. This is my life, or in your case it’s your life, and individually we are the only ones who can live it, or them (the lives I mean). We are the masters of our own fate and the captains of our every moment. I can’t dictate the morality you should live by and you should not dictate morality to me, if you know what’s good for you. I am a Libertine and to the best of my knowledge that doesn’t affect you one bit. And I am not the only one. We are legion and we are amongst you. Educate yourselves and learn to accept it. We aren’t going anywhere.